I can't keep up in the bedroom... am I too old for all this now

by Mark
1 year ago

Hi Mark, I have a challenge.. not necessarily a problem.

My "challenge" is I am not 18 anymore and not able to have sex all night, with countless rounds of orgasms.. Busting a nut is different at the ripe age of 33! My desire and want for sex after the first couple of rounds is somewhat.. lacking, yet my girlfriend from a good place just wants me again and again and again no matter how many times she cums or how great it is for her.

At some points, it gets to the point of just absolutely ham - going balls to the walls to be able to finish as there is some pressure if I don't she feels I am not finding her attractive etc, yet we know as men this is not the case. As once we unload the chamber, our desire is somewhat abandoned us for sex and the pursuit of sex. I mean thinking back to mid-teens, you couldn't stop young men throwing countless Kunkle children during the day! Yet this all changes as we get older. She is awesome so let's make that clear and the sex is amazing but, the quantity she sometimes demands in one sitting is a challenge. Sometimes I fear as I get older will this be an issue for her... Anyway, off for another night of it, cheers for listening ;)

'Marks response'

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only man who has slowed down over the years. I remember when I was younger and felt like I had round after round in me, but these days I'm lucky to get the round in the chamber.

It reminds me of going out drinking. I don't know about you, but when I was younger I could drink all weekend! I would start at 12 midday with a full English breakfast, get back at 1-2 in the morning, and let us not forget the all you can eat curry and 80s disco down the litten tree pub on a Sunday. All this and I would be up for work on a Monday morning, bright as a button.

Now, if I have even one beer during a school night, I feel like I've had ten and it takes me two days to get over a hangover. The reason I say this is because everything gets to you in the end and time plays a role in everything we do.

How I would go about your situation, is to introduce some toys and play role in the mix. Have you already done this? If not, it really helps us older chaps out in the bedroom and the wife-girlfriend seems to be a lot happier at the end of it all. It sounds to me that your partner must be younger than you, as it's normally the case that the woman is happy for the man to finish and jump off! Either that or this is a newish relationship and it's only a matter of time before things tend to slow down anyway.

From my own understanding, a man can only come once at a time. For most of us, when this happens, it's mostly game over until you either give it ten minutes or have a nap. What you can do though, is to make the one round you have the best round you've got and try and make it last as long as possible. It's like getting into the ring with Mike Tyson, you know you're not going to win, but you want to give it your best shot. What I tend to do these days is to make sure my partner is happy before I finish the game. If you find this hard, then as I say, the toys will help you out a lot.